Perfection


Perfection – mumbles a teenager watching a group of workshop participants. Why does anybody have to mold any signature or noble virtues? Why in a present world, are useful humility or compassion useful? – he continues.
After exercises I had approached and leaned on a bollard of a bower, said the youngster.
- Do you want to work with us next week? – I asked him.
Surprised by my invitation, he affirmatively had nodded his head and went away.

A while later we also left this beautiful place of Jabłonna gardens.
I shout questions regarding the boy to young competitors of workshops.
I’m very glad, that so-called signature virtues, which ancients had identified with deeply justified convictions, in other words – knowledge, are for this group a value on its own, as well.
They don’t doubt that our every day reality shapes them, but they accordingly say that awareness of being in a process reduces a suffering – side effect of a grinding life.
They give the examples:
Life obstructions shape the humility. Straggling with them brings a great variety of different feelings, from dejection to rage.
If we can accept their presence and if we use, adequate to a situation, techniques, which will transform them into “positive”, we improve on one hand the noble trait, and on the other hand we gain a tool for less painful change of personality.

But, what is compassion or love needed for?
Isn’t the cost, which we have to incur during self-improvement, higher than the real benefits?
From my own life experiences:
I don’t know how without the humility we can expand our knowledge or to “explore” worlds of other people. I dare to say, that lack of it leads to many adverse decisions. Sometimes we refuse something uncommonly precious, something in what our speculative mind cannot see any advantages, what in fact could bring long expecting fulfillment.
From the other point of view, how do great Teachers of humanity, noble traits, a firmed by variety of experiences, constitute uncommonly stable codes, the mental-emotional modules, opening up the gates to higher reality and allowing us to stay there.
If interested in:
There exists male and female modules.
Among female modules we distinguish: love, faith, beauty, harmony, truth and peace.
To male modules belong: love, wisdom, truth, humility, unity, compassion.

In which way and in what way we use our time between our birth and death depends on our own free will. What we will do, time will show.





BLUE SKY – ROUTE 7

Diamond

“One sannyasi came to the neighborhood of a village and flaked out under a tree, to spend the night. Suddenly, an inhabitant of the settlement ran up to him and said:
- A gem! A gem! Give me a gem!
- What’s a gem? – asked sannyasi.
- Yesterday during the night Siva emerged in my dream – told the villager – and he made me certain, that when sundown come I would meet one sannyasi, who would donate a gem to, thanks to which, I’ll become rich.
Sannayasi delved into his bag, and took out a gem.
- Probably that’s it – he said, passing the gem to the villager. I had found it on a path in a forest. You can keep it. A man looked on wondering. It was a diamond! Probably the greatest diamond in the world, because it was big like a duke. The man took the gem and went out. He tossed and turned in his bed and couldn’t sleep the whole night.
The next day at the crack of dawn he ran to wake up sannyasi and told him:
- Give me an opulence, which allowed you to so easily get rid of this diamond.

“The Song of the Bird” Tony de Mello

I.is a permanent participant of workshops. She is 29 years old and has a head full of dreams. She also has the big ability to watch her own emotions and hid behind her needs, that ensure her most well-chosen selection concerning her here and now while clocking up life lessons.
She more often refers to traits (signature virtues), which appear in the aftermath of creating one’s life experiences. She understands, that perfection in a range of self-realization depends on a tapestry hammered by virtues, and on the ability of expressions through them. She starts to treat an arena of life increasingly as a possibility to experience herself, not as a place of wristle for a golden award.
Trusting her own feelings and the self-realization on the base of them, and the information gained during a process of education, make walking through and experiencing life’s subjects, rendering her useless in changing and interesting base for self-cognition and permanent growth of energy. Growth, which is the conditioning and well mood of greater access to a knowledge of subtle forms of life.
With the negative energy of emotions that emerge during the creation, she increasingly becomes more efficient and transforms to a level linked with the experiencing of the clamness.
Can we in the world, which exist perpetual concerns on surrounding us with only tactile material reality, numerous implication linked with the material side of life, function while aiming a vector of interest into our inside?
If yes, what is in this perspective attractiveness?
I think, that the answer is linked with the pinpointing an efficiency of life.
This way, on which perpetually we build and experience ourselves once again, can be attractive for people who are bored of manifesting the same paths, who aren’t afraid of risk or changes and treat life as a great possibility of discovering their own potential.
- Don’t you regret your own choice? I ask her, attentively observing her face.
- Don’t the rat race and the gratifications linked with it, which fascinate your acquaintances, appear to be a better way of life’s adventure?
- I feel the life, I flow!
- Once again and with a feeling of attractiveness and self-realization – she answers.
- I’m not bored, I am not afraid that I’ll loose something, because everything I need in life, I always have with me.
- Does I. find a diamond?
For this question answer by yourself.


BLUE SKY – ROUTE 6

Knowledge

“Even you would be between sinners bowed by heaviest sin, on a mighty raft of knowledge you will sail a whirls of evil.”

Mahabharata

What is a knowledge?

As a classic it is conceded that Plato’s definition from a dialogue Teajtet, in which Socrates in dialogue with Teajtet regards the knowledge as a true and valid conviction.

“Humility, liberty of pride, mildness, tolerance, diligence, purity and self-control…., liberty of a false ego, awareness of the evil flowing from a birth and death, lack of devotion, balance against pleasurable and unpleasurable events, philosophical quest of Absolute Truth…..all of it I consider as the knowledge, and everything else as an ignorance” – tells Krishna to Ardżuna on a Kuruksetra field of battle.

New Popular Encyclopedia defines knowledge as a “general credible information about reality along with an ability to use it”.

Information or conviction…………………………?

The ancient people didn’t doubt that the information was a beginning to a way in which through a creation slowly sculptures a new conviction.
They were aware of a necessity to learn through an experience.

They could distinguish imagination from feelings, understanding, that there is many experiences needed before we will get this “true and valid conviction” of Plato.

But what is this ” true and valid conviction”?

Positive psychology based on an ancient wisdom describes 6 groups of virtues – convictions esteem in each culture and the only fact is owning them – calls them signature virtues.

The signature virtues are:

1. wisdom and knowledge
2. courage
3. humaneness and love
4. justice
5. moderation
6. transcendence

When I had read for the first time works of Prof. Seligman, I was surprised to learn the strange concurrence of opinions of what Plato called the knowledge, comprehension of knowledge by the culture of Far East and position of modern “positive” psychologists.

I think, that in spite of all, it’s easier to acquire some information and use it for creation, than to sculpture even one new conviction, even one signature virtue. We can think about ourselves as about thoughtful beings, but only life difficulties show us the real level of our being from which our caution is flowing. There are similarities with love, compassion and charity. Sharp life tests will help figure out our emotional truths about ourselves for a given moment of life.

Participants of workshops managed by Centre OBK “Vega” sometimes faced difficulties in what was to settle a subject of life lesson.

I think, that a good way is a self-observation due to a model NC (Nonviolent Communication) of Dr Marshall Rosenberg.

Perception without appreciation – Feeling – Need – Acting – Request

Detailed description you will find in a book of M. Rosenberg “Nonviolent Communication . A language of life”

From my observations ensues that the most difficult challenges for the people using this method is determining the feelings. In accordance they claim that the reason is the systematical suppressing of an emotional zone of life for the benefit of behaviors, which cohere to the “obligatory model”.

Don’t be afraid John – tells a mother to 6 years old son.

You are a big boy….

If there are more repetitions, John will be separated by a part of his self-fulfilling fear, treating it like an impropriety, that isn’t accepted by authority in childhood – mother and John’s senior will have difficulties reaching to his own desires linked to an isolated part of their own personality. He will have troubles expressing life’s lessons and from this, with sculpturing the new conviction (virtue) of conditioning his creations in the next stage of his self-development.

To be continued..
BLUE SKY – ROUTE 5


To wing a waltz

Even as we function in a field of varied information, significant quantities of patients complain that they have the lack of skills, useful in improving a better quality of life’s experiences. Feelings of marasmus and torpor are not rare, even between young people and experiments with addicting remedies increasingly inscribed into an autobiography of attractive sensation seekers.
We know from a psychological yard, that feelings of happiness are linked with an ability of managing an emotional level of life.
Pleasure and gratification are two possibilities, which on one hand bring a world of sensual experiences, and on another self-realization based on our own creative potential, through using the best sculptured traits of personality (virtues) referred to Prof. Seligman as signature virtues.
Listening to music undoubtedly we can relate to a palette of nice sensations.
Technical possibilities to relish and an interesting dialogue with an expert of musical phrase can enrich us in regards to a new high in quality sensations.
We use music also for therapeutic purposes, as it has a background for techniques of visualization. The target is: on the one hand we chill out our “running mind”, on the other -awareness on the impact of forming our emotional landscape (from this point, no believers of positive psychology, so its only a small step in experiencing, what we call happiness.
Can we turn a feeling of pleasure into a phenomenon of flow and flow as the wings of deepening experiences of life into a more gratifying sensation?
To find an answer I suggest to watch some musical clips of YouTube service enclosed below.

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listen and express…………?

I hope, that consider on own feeling during an emitting gave you joy and enrich your internal landscape about next cognitive elements.




BLUE SKY – ROUTE 4


A difference


Among the questions regarding the possibilities of increasing the energy in a range of specific attributes for each person, many concerns the differences between experiencing good moods which is result of getting pleasure and a state of so called optimal experience or gratification. Although it’s hard to structure an emotional sphere of life, so for better understanding, let’s give feelings of pleasure credit for sensual perception. Ecstasy can accompany watching a beautiful landscape, its nice for an ear and delighting heart sound, heat and gentleness of “touch” of warm sun rays or delight of palate during consumption of your next piece of favourite cake, all of them are possibilities of increasing emotional energy through the senses. Although sometimes the pleasure only lasts as long as the twinkle of an eye, and we experience it “here and now”, it’s a fairly important element of “life’s banquet.” It’s worth mentioning, anyway, to remember that our godly wishes to keep it frequently misfire. Beauty of pleasure is linked with fleetness of sensation, and even the adherents of positive psychology claim that there does exist a possibility to repeat it, I think this is not true. Yes, we can create similar conditions of the experience, but not recreate a state of awareness that accompanies its mainstream sensation. It’s worth remembering that gentleness of experience is connected with the necessity to break free of negative past emotions through the process of forgiveness. It’s worth investing the proper energy in this process, because to a great degree they condition the state and freshness of our sensations in contemporary time. Another opportunity of increasing the emotional energy is to exercise our attributes of personality /signature virtues/, knowledge in which we have gained in the process of life and the feelings flowing from an intuitive sphere of existence. As a reminder – signature virtues are our special predispositions which are valuable through centuries the way they are. So-called predispositions include: wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, continence and transcendence. Optimal experience and the state with added wings as a consequence of using one’s own predispositions and skills gained during education and creation, is linked to experiencing the state of “silence”, with feelings of absence of “I” and lack of feeling lapse of time. The more we experience this state, the better we can control a mental and emotional zone of existence, that transmits into the ability to create a full satisfying life. As claimed, renowned representatives of positive psychology – professors Seligman and Cisksentmihaly – this is the best way to preserve psychic health. Is there anything objectionable in aiming for the escalation of pleasure? I don’t mind, excluding the fact that after the next “repetition”, continuation of sensation is passing and in its place appears dejection and lack of interest. On the other hand, acting on the base of signature virtues still brings new knowledge about ourselves and enriches us with new attributes, which used in self-realization will give feelings of flowing, fullness and satisfaction. A very important element of such a creation is the unity of feeling, “here and now”, thoughts and acting. What shall we choose? It depends on us.






BLUE SKY – ROUTE 3

Small Stairway


P=E+C+F
P - Permanent level of happiness which you feel
E - Established domain of positive emotions
C - Circumstances of your life
F - Factors under the control of your will
"Authentic happiness" Martin Seligman

Even when, thanks to self-observation and self-analysis, we have identified our predispositions (described by professor Seligman "signature virtues"), our life circumstances are positive, and we are a willing to use them in our creativity, even then we are not assured that we will experience true happiness. Taking into account our feelings (developing our intuition) as we go through our life’s experiences, could take us closer to the feeling of satisfaction, felt by those among us who already are happy. Sometimes however the predispositions that we already have curiosity about the world, critical thinking, resourcefulness, social intelligence, etc.) can be the base for developing other traits such as courage, persistence, kindness, leadership skills.
Then, creating our life experiences, taking into account all mentioned conditions, instead of feeling happiness, we tend to focus on dull regrets, emotional pain and lack of fulfillment.
I think that our ability of to keep up with all these "spin-offs" of creation, depends on our wellbeing (in a context of psychosomatic diseases) and also the level of development, in which we pursue. Vigilance and paying attention to the virtues, that we already have are something we must continue to work on. I think, that one of elements of feeling happiness - joy- will occur when we create, based on the new traits of developing personalities through life experiences a completely different quality.
Self-observation and developing of traits that we, which consciously form, can be difficult, if we don't constantly convert our feelings into creativity. It is that creativity where we can notice the change most readily.
Through this process we need to incorporate into our emotional and mental plan the ability to be - calm and silent.
Without mental and emotional hygiene we don't reach new plateaus of intuition, and often wander helplessly to the rhythm of our emotions.
In these life moments our great allies are music, poetry, creative expression that constructively articulates what we feel.
Words can give us wings or kill, the music can quiet us down just as well as show it’s destructive might – as when the sound of trumpets destroy walls at Jericho.
If you enter the site at a page www.obkvega.home.pl, and open "Love of Silent Moon”, you may experience a sudden shift of your mood, maybe even something much more.
Regardless of your disposition, I suggest that you familiarize yourself with content of this page.
The uncommon, from a philosophical point of view, writings of Stuart Wilde, accompanied by wonderfully harmonized music and Cecil’s voice of can all support you in moments of confusion.
From my side, I am deeply grateful for this splendid gift to all authors and producers of this recording.


BLUE SKY – ROUTE 2

Charade
Does the realization of your imaginations regarding yourself and surrounding reality have a correlation one’s to real needs? – This is a frequently asked question to participants of workshops lead by the Center OBK “Vega”. Some believe that although they dream, they have difficulty in defining needs, because there is a problem regarding the identification of feelings. They are in opinion that it is a merit of the educational system, which prefers a program that will promote the development of a logical hemisphere. Often they blame lack of skills in management of the emotional and intuitive sphere of life on not being available to all practical knowledge of this subject. In spite of reason, it’s is tough to live in harmony with one’s self, omitting possibilities in which the creation of life experiences bring opulence of inspirations hidden in the one’s intuitive sphere of one’s existence. The lack of connection to imaginations with feelings of creativity, bring us to many feelings of deep disappointment, not to mention feelings of unhealthy emptiness, even if the target was reached. Often in such moments we stop to understand ourselves. Feeling a great discomfort, we try to cope with it, dealing in many ways with this upsetting downer. One of the most frequently chosen workshops by our participants is suppressing the psychic pain, through the fast and mindless realization of our next purpose. Can we spot on this mad merry-go-round ourselves how we are “here and now”, or only in our imagination of ourselves is a legacy of past events or irrational illusions? Two years ago a young woman came to my workshop. In the beginning she had taken interest in the next elements of our work, closely watching a group on the group. Undoubtedly she was searching. As she used to say, she had taken part in most workshops organized by teachers, or other healers who lead in various origins nationality, spirituality. She had placed herself on the level of realization in Universal Love, simultaneously (how she has arisen from her utterance), staying in conflict with herself and with her closest relatives. I wondered how it is possible, that the imaginations can be so far removed from the stream of life and from feeling that go with it. In my consulting room I had constantly confronted neurotics searching for help. As a rule, they had refused all treatments, with regards to the kind of therapy, that can be painful. They yearned for miracles, which cure without pain. Similarly the lady, wanted to feel “good in her own skin” she found a clever way of negation (the I stage of healing due to Dr Barbara Kubler-Ross). She had identified (imagined ) herself as being very advanced in spiritual development. She past away with her illusion. As her farewell gift she left a piece of paper with this beautiful, but confirming my supposition message: “A doll made of salt” A doll made of salt traveled thousands of kilometers by land, and one time she had reached the sea. She was fascinated by this movable and strange mass, Entirely different from everything else, that she had seen until now. “Who are you?” – asked the sea the doll made of salt to the sea, The sea answered with a smile: “Come and see!” So the doll went to the sea. But as she had immersed more, she began dissolve more. Soon there remained almost nothing and before the last piece was to be dissolved, the doll exclaimed, astonishly: “Now I know who I am!”








Blue-sky route part 1

“Mad merry-go-round”


Quite frequently we make choices, considering awareness development, under the influence of suffering. Lack of opportunities in finding satisfying solutions for afflicting problems, curiosity in internal landscape or the continuation of the way of beings, which became our ideal, are rather rare reasons of self- interest, transgressing beyond accepted life style.

Beginnings are usually difficult. As a result of my experiences, I know that conscious work with subliminal level of life (from this place we set out on the “blue-sky rout”) is easier and more efficient, if it is strengthened by, a well understanding our needs group.
“Realization” of blockades can be linked by pleasant sensations if we are open, for example, for self working ways, which are connected with feelings of pleasure (art therapy).
Feelings of joy accompanied by creative realization through elements of energetic exercises, choreo or music therapy makes easier to cope with volatile moods or even somatic ailments (which often imitate disease of physical body) which appear during the therapy.

Systemic work on the rooting out of old ideas shouldn’t, restrict participation in workshops. New visions of self and own life support by techniques of work with the mind (between others – visualization), should find reflections in creativity, which like workshop methods, then become specific, and in my belief, a most efficient catharsis. On this level creativity can exonerate decks of fear, for which the best counterweight represents passion, accompanied by engaged activity. At this stage the answer to a question:

“What do I like?” regards not only our imagination of this subject, but also feelings.

I can’t imagine the passionate creativity without powerfully, supporting one’s activity, and positive emotions.

Then, and only then, we are able to overcome many limiting our creative field weaknesses, which are caused by deeply suppressed fear. This is very difficult and filled by laborious work and many periods of doubt, but when we get rid of relatively small part of ballast, we feel relief.
Suddenly the situations in which we endured many years upsetting experiences became neutral feeling and sometimes even feelings of satisfaction in which is the best measure of our personal change is achieved.

After long (different people need different amount of time) training in a range of creativity balanced with feelings (creation from the level of intuition), our opportunities for establishing more beneficial conditions of life are coming of age.
Slowly we become experts in domain of “block arranging “on our life chessboard.
But heads up! If we still have the wherewithal of “voyager of own interior”, beware of a material merry-go-round trap. My experience suggest that on this stage, many people very often yield the illusion of material manipulations, which?? they had created by themselves.

Remaining for them nothing, is nothing more than a disappointing daily round on the wheel of fortune. Where does this transformation lead us? We’ll talk later about this question.